Came up with this goofy chart. This worked for me, but different things might be important to you. Regardless, the point is to develop some criteria to, as objectively as possible, evaluate where you are and where you want to go. For example when I got sick I was able to do about 65 pushups. After Chemo it was closer to five. Obviously that told me I had lost strength and had to adjust my life accordingly or work on that area to improve my strength. If you like to hike you could compare your walking endurance before and after chemo. All these things take great intellectual honesty. Lying to yourself is the worst thing you can do. I lost some verbal ability and can’t banter as quickly as I did before chemo, so I’ve had to adjust my interpersonal exchanges accordingly.
So unless you are a superman/woman you lost something. You’re no longer faster than a speeding bullet, you can’t change the course of mighty rivers, and you’re not more powerful than a locomotive. That can be bitter pill to swallow if you’re not ready to start again. In a lot of ways ALL OVER AGAIN, but if you are there are new journeys to take and new discoveries about you. It can be quite a fun. So when you find out you’ve changed, don’t stick your thumb in your mouth and cry for more than a day. Get back in the fight, because we need you, your family needs you, and you need you.